Father’s day – a time of great celebration for some, and a time of great sadness and loneliness for others. There are those who have lost their dad’s to death, those who mourn dads they never had, those who mourn the loss of children who made them dads, those who wish they were dads…. Each reason as unique as the individuals who feel them. What is common though is that days like these often trigger grief emotions, irrespective of the type of loss or when the loss occurred. It is important to note that grief due to significant loss can often present strongly despite timeContinue Reading…

Dear Aaron, My baby, I miss you. This day is tough for me. I stay awake until midnight every year and whisper a tear stained happy birthday to you. Its been 3 years. 3 years since we had to say goodbye, before I had the chance to kiss you hello. I held you in my body for 18 weeks, but I have loved you for so much longer. I didn’t know they would give me that dreadful pill. They told me your heart had stopped but I honestly thought you would be with me until you decided to leave me yourself. I created an alternateContinue Reading…

To the people who stole our car: On Saturday we became statistics. This car was our first real purchase, it represented our new start as a family. My daughter was taken to all her firsts in this car, my son was brought home from the hospital in it. This car took us to church, to picnics, to birthday parties and even though we didn’t have the money to take holidays, this car made it possible to have experiences. This car represented safety and consistency in our lives. Every little crumb and smear holds a treasured memory filled with giggles and pure joy. This car wasContinue Reading…

Mattel has just released their new range of Barbie and friends. This is by far their most diverse range representing fuller figures, ethnic hair and features and more realistic skin hues. Surprisingly when I asked Rach which one she wanted she did not choose the doll that looked just like her, and she had a pretty good reason for it too. See according to this very clever 6 year old the new doll is going to be her companion, her side kick through the upcoming adventures that await. So, understandably she chose the doll that best represented her best friend at school – who happensContinue Reading…

It’s amazing how a dad shapes your life. They teach little girls how woman should be treated via their actions towards their wives, sisters and other females in their lives. Little boys mimic their dad’s (or the dad figure in their lives) and usually exhibit the same behaviours towards woman as their dad’s did. For most people the word father and dad mean the same thing but dont agree fully. To me father is a title that is bestowed on those who have biologically contributed to the make-up of that child’s DNA. Dad however is a title that is earned by actions, love and inputContinue Reading…